Verbal Clues & Words With Wallop
The verbal clues below give you 5 opportunities:
To more effectively protect yourself from bad gossip (closed door relationships)
To more effectively protect yourself from ugly gossip (slammed door relationships)
To recognize DISC behavior styles and Spranger guiding values.
To spark more success for yourself by speaking words with wallop to yourself.
To spark unforeseen success for yourself by speaking words with wallop to others.
All of the verbal clues are statements from real people.
Use the Needs&PassionsUs file to do what you can to open closed and slammed doors. Sincerity and open-mindedness are necessary for successful change.
Sources Of Verbal Clues
You can hear or read verbal clues everywhere:
Paula Kramer adds more recognition clues as she finds them.
Natural & Adapted Behavior Styles
People have both natural and adapted behavior styles. People express their natural behavior styles when they feel comfortable and safe. People adapt their behavior styles to situations as they need to fit in. The recognition clues below reveal natural behavior styles.
Recognition Clues For DISC Behavior Styles
Recognition Clues For Spranger Guiding Values
Words With Wallop
The words with wallop clues below are based on statements from highly successful people. Words have wallop when they give people the positive identities they need to create more success for themselves. First, use the recognition clues to help identify your behavior style and guiding value combination. Second, speak the words with wallop clues to yourself to spark more success for yourself. Finally, speak words with wallop to other people so they have reasons to intentionally create unforeseen success for you.
Words With Wallop For Changing The World, Example #1
From an Inside Edition news segment sometime during the 1980s
Words With Wallop: One sentence repeated occasionally over time.
A rabbi and his family moved to a town that had a white supremacist group. One member of the white supremacist group started leaving nasty messages on the rabbi’s answering machine. The rabbi called back after every nasty message to ask, “Would you like to come over for dinner and talk?” The white supremacist just kept leaving nasty messages.
When the white supremacist developed a degenerative disease, his white supremacist group dropped him. You can’t claim biological superiority if your body has a degenerative disease. The rabbi, however, was still asking, “Would you like to come over for dinner and talk?”
Eventually, the former white supremacist did go to the rabbi’s house for dinner and talk. They became such good friends that the former white supremacist moved into the rabbi’s house so the rabbi and his family could take care of him as his disease progressed.
Words With Wallop For Changing The World, Example #2
“Compassion Is Contagious”
Richard Carlson, Ph.D.
November 1, 2002, pages 38-41
Words With Wallop: Two sentences repeated daily for months
A young man lived in a city apartment building. The building had steps going up to its front door. Beneath the steps was an empty space. The apartment dweller came home one day to discover a homeless man living underneath the apartment steps.
The apartment dweller wasn’t sure how to react. He mostly ignored the homeless man, but occasionally gave him coins without looking at him. But the apartment dweller wanted to be a compassionate person in the world, and changed his attitude towards the homeless man. When he left in the morning, he looked at the homeless man and asked, “Hello, how are you today?” Returning home in the evening, he looked at the homeless man and asked, “How was your day?”
At first, the homeless man would not look at the apartment dweller and would not respond. But eventually he made eye contact and had short conversations with the apartment dweller. Months passed. Then the apartment dweller came home one day to find the homeless man gone.
More time passed. At the end of one day, the apartment dweller came home to find a man sitting on his apartment steps. The man stood up as the apartment dweller approached. The apartment dweller did not recognize the man until he identified himself as the homeless man who had lived underneath the apartment steps.
The former homeless man had decided that if the apartment dweller treated him with respect, he should respect himself enough to change his life. He left to make those changes. He come back to say, “Thank you.”
Words With Wallop Clues For Creating The Smiles That Spark Success
High D Controlling Others
High D Controlling Self
High I Influencing Others
High I Influencing Self
High S Steadying Others
High S Steadying Self
High C Respecting The Authority Of Others
High C Expecting Others To Follow Rules
High C Setting Rules For Self
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Last updated February 13, 2019