Open Door Success
Open a door that give other people reasons and opportunities
to make your wishes come true.
Open door success means giving yourself moments of dignity and moments of passion in ways that invite other people to give you what you need.
Open door moments spark both immediate satisfaction and future success.
Paula M. Kramer’s DISC behavior styles and Spranger guiding values
High I Influence/High S Steadiness
Helping + Knowledge
I/S with Helping + Knowledge
Open Door Success Example #1
Ending an eating disorder
Paula had started eating compulsively at age fourteen. She struggled on her own to overcome her eating disorder for decades without success. In desperation, sorganized a local support group for overeaters through a national organization. She left it when she realized she disagreed with the national organization’s philosophy. She knew her overeating was not a disease, but a response to a situation. She wished she could find a way to end her overeating. She wished she could eat only healthy amounts of food. She wished for an end to the desperation.
Starting at age 32, Paula wrote letters to the editor of her local newspaper on and off for nine years. Since Paula often wrote controversial letters, some people responded with hostility. Other people recognized value in Paula’s letters by giving her respect and approval. People stopped Paula on the street or called her on the phone to thank her for writing letters. Some people told Paula she was brave for writing what she did. Paula’s letters expressed what other people wanted to express but didn’t feel able to express. They thanked Paula with positive responses that had a significant impact on Paula’s life.
After the first few years of writing letters to the newspaper, Paula realized that she felt the compulsion to overeat less and less. Paula knew that the compulsion to stuff herself with food had lessened because of her letters. Before the end of the nine years of writing letters, the compulsion to overeat had disappeared.
When Paula learned about DISC behavior styles and Spranger values a decade later, she discovered that her letters had satisfied her guiding value passions to help people by giving them knowledge that could improve their lives. The responses to her letters satisfied her High I Influence behavior style need for recognition and approval. The compulsion to eat faded away because Paula’s letters and the responses to them satisfied her needs and passions.
Paula’s advice to people who are overweight because of compulsive overeating is:
Replace dieting with smiling!
Note About Support Groups
Paula does not suggest that people in support groups cannot help each other. However, the support would be more effective if it were based on individual DISC behavior style needs and Spranger guiding value passions.
Moments Of Dignity
Writing letters to the editor (Helping + Knowledge)
Writing what she wanted to write
Receiving recognition and approval for what she wrote satisfied (High I Influence need for approval)
Having her wish to eat only healthy amounts of food come true
Eating normally for the rest of her life
Enjoying the food she eats (including chocolate, ice cream, and butter)
Improved writing skills from years of learning how to fit everything she wanted to say into a 500 or 350 word limit
Paula’s moments of dignity opened doors that gave other people reasons and opportunities to make her wishes come true. Paula’s letters to the editor expressed feelings and opinions other people shared but did not know how to express. Having their feelings publicly expressed gave people reasons and opportunities to give Paula approval and gratitude for writing her letters. That repeated recognition and approval made Paula’s wish for an end to her eating disorder come true.
Serendipitous Success For You: Weight Loss From Water Retention
You are in the right place at the right time to just by chance benefit from Paula Kramer’s straightforward success in reducing decades of water retention.
Despite the end of her compulsive overeating, Paula gained more than 40 pounds. She’d struggled with water retention problems for years and had difficulty figuring out the solution. Through her own experience, she realized that taking magnesium supplements twice a day helped her lose some of the weight. After reading two articles in women’s magazines, she realized she also needed taurine and potassium.
Dark chicken meat (as in thighs) is an excellent source of taurine. Paula eats chicken thighs most days of the week. She gets potassium through high potassium fruits, vegetables, juices, and smoothies. After adding these three nutrients to her daily meals and snacks, Paula has gradually lost more than 30 pounds. She has done so while still eating chocolate, butter, and ice cream in healthy amounts.
Paula’s advice for people with water retention weight:
Add taurine, magnesium, and potassium
to your meals and snacks.
Open Door Success Example #2
Ending decades of spinal pain
A childhood injury to her spine left Paula disabled as an adult. A boy pulled her chair out from under her in school when she was twelve years old. Paula landed hard on her tailbone. The pain in her spine started the instant she hit the floor. Though the pain in her spine was not continuous, it recurred more frequently and more intensely with each passing year. From her late twenties on, sitting and standing normally left Paula in more and more pain. In her mid thirties, an orthopedic surgeon told Paula her disability was permanent. Despite that diagnosis, Paula wished she could find a way to end the pain in her spine.
In the mid 1990s, Paula did a number of talks for women’s business groups. Because Paula had to half sit on a tall stool to do her talks with as little pain as possible, Paula told audiences about the injury to her spine. Paula asked her audiences to tell any children in their lives to never pull chairs out from under anyone.
A nurse in one of her audiences came up to Paula after the talk. She gave Paula a diagnosis that was different from every other diagnosis Paula had received. The nurse’s diagnosis made more sense to Paula than all of the other diagnoses. Two and a half months later, Paula tried the treatment the nurse recommended. The pain in Paula’s spine ended forever. The solution to her pain was actually simple, but Paula’s injury had been misdiagnosed for 33 years. Since Paula did not know that the orthopedic surgeon had misdiagnosed her injury, she was not seeking any other diagnosis or treatment. Paula’s attempt to help other people had created an opportunity for the nurse in her audience to make Paula’s wish come true.
Moments Of Dignity
Giving people information that could prevent pain and injury (Helping + Knowledge)
Doing what she could to save other people from pain and disability
Receiving the correct diagnosis for her own injury after thirty-three years of misdiagnoses
Having her wish for an end to the pain in her spine come true
The ability to sit and stand normally
The ability to participate in activities that once caused too much pain
Paula’s desire to help others opened a door that gave the nurse in her audience an opportunity to provide the correct diagnosis.
The nurse provided information that Paula used to open the door to a life of no pain in her spine, making her wish come true.
The information the nurse gave Paula has never come into Paula’s life in any other way.
The Treatment That Ended The Pain In Paula’s Spine
When the boy in school pulled the chair out from under Paula, she landed hard on her tailbone. Thirty-three years later, the nurse told Paula that her spinal cord had tensed up because of the hard landing on the floor. When Paula did anything that hurt over the years, the tension in her spinal cord increased. With the correct diagnosis Paula learned that as the tension increased, Paula’s pelvis shifted out of place. With her pelvis out of place, Paula’s hips shifted out of place. One of the multiple chiropractors Paula saw realized that Paula felt pain when she put weight on her spine. He took an x-ray of Paula’s spine, hoping to determine the problem. He told Paula she had no S curve in her spine. Paula has no idea why that chiropractor did not make the correct diagnoses about her spinal cord after seeing her x-ray.
Think about that for a moment. Paula’s spine had no S curve for decades. Sitting normally put weight on Paula’s spine. Standing normally put weight on Paula’s spine. Carrying anything put weight on Paula’s spine.
The nurse told Paula that her chiropractor husband knew an unusual technique known as the Neural Organizational Technique (NOT). Paula made an appointment with that chiropractor who used NOT to release the tension in Paula’s spine. The pain in Paula’s spine ended in one hour, because the NOT treatment released the tension in Paula’s spinal cord and her pelvis moved back into place in one hour.
The chiropractor told Paula the spinal cord is attached to the spine by two muscles, one of them in the neck. He said that because the spinal cord was tensed up, those muscles were also tensed up. Using a laser pen, the chiropractor released the tension in the neck muscle to release the tension in Paula’s spinal cord. It was that simple.
Paula has not felt any pain in her spine since June 28, 1996 when she received her first NOT treatment. Most spinal problems require more than one NOT treatment. The chiropractor who treated Paula was surprised at the immediate success and felt that her spine must have been “ready” to be healed.
However, Paula has felt pain in her hips and all of her back muscles since June 28, 1996. When her pelvis moved forward, all of her muscles were suddenly forced to perform in new ways. Paula’s hips still shift out of easily because her muscles are too weak to hold them in place. The pain is not as horrific as the pain in her spine was, but Paula is still living with pain. The pain will end when Paula is finally able to buy a car that holds her hips in place. Most car seats — American and foreign — shift Paula’s hips out of place. The muscles in her right hip get tight, pulling her right hip inward. The tight muscles in her right hip create pain in the outside muscles of her right calf.
Paula has test driven a car that holds her hips in place, a Hyundai Kona SUV. As she drove it, the muscles in her right hip relaxed. She felt none of the right calf muscle pain she normally feels when driving. She should be able to buy a Kona in the summer of 2020. Paula originally had trouble earning money because of the pain in her spine. Now she has trouble earning money because her shifting hips leave her in pain.
When Paula’s hips shift out of place, the muscle in her hips affects the muscles in her back. They are forced to compensate for her tight right hip muscles. Paula expects that driving the Kona while eventually end the pain in Paula’s back muscles and right calf muscles. Paula’s should finally feel no pain at all in her back or hips or calf.
Do an Internet search for more information about Neural Organizational Technique and to find NOT practitioners. The chiropractor who treated Paula is now deceased.
© Paula M. Kramer, 2010 to the present.
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Last updated May 6, 2020.