Open Door Success
Open a door that give other people reasons and opportunities
to make your wishes come true.
Open door success means satisfying your needs and passions in ways that invite other people to participate in your life.
Open door success keys spark both immediate satisfaction and future success.
Expressing what other people wanted expressed gave them reasons to make a wish come true:
ending an eating disorder
A desire to help others gave a nurse the opportunity to make a wish come true:
ending decades of pain
Open Door Success Example #1
Ending an eating disorder
Paula had started eating compulsively at age fourteen. She had struggled on her own to overcome her eating disorder for years without success. She organized a local support group for overeaters through a national organization, but left it when she realized she disagreed with the national organization’s philosophy. She wished she could find a way to end her overeating. She wished she could eat only healthy amounts of food.
Starting at age 32, Paula wrote letters to the editor of her local newspaper on and off for nine years. Since Paula often wrote controversial letters, some people responded with hostility. Other people recognized value in Paula’s letters by giving her respect and approval. People stopped Paula on the street or called her on the phone to thank her for writing letters. Some people told Paula she was brave for writing what she did. Paula’s letters expressed what other people wanted to express but didn’t feel able to express. They thanked Paula with positive responses that had a significant impact on Paula’s life.
After the first few years of writing letters to the newspaper, Paula realized that she felt the compulsion to overeat less and less. Paula knew that the compulsion to stuff herself with food had lessened because of her letters. Before the end of the nine years of writing letters, the compulsion to overeat had disappeared.
When Paula learned about DISC behavior styles and Spranger values a decade later, she discovered that her letters had satisfied her guiding value passions to help people by giving them knowledge that could improve their lives. The responses to her letters satisfied her High I behavior style need for recognition and approval. The compulsion to eat faded away because Paula’s letters and the responses to them satisfied her needs and passions.
Paula’s advice to people who are overweight because of compulsive overeating is:
Replace dieting with smiling!
Note About Support Groups
Paula does not suggest that people in support groups cannot help each other. However, the support would be more effective if it were based on individual DISC behavior style needs and Spranger guiding value passions.
Paula satisfied her Helping and Knowledge guiding value passions for giving people information that could improve their lives. This opened a door to other people to create success for her.
Writing what she wanted to write
Receiving recognition and approval for what she wrote satisfied her High I influence need for recognition and approval
Having her wish to eat only healthy amounts of food come true
Eating normally for the rest of her life
Enjoying the food she eats (including chocolate, ice cream, and butter)
Improved writing skills from years of learning how to fit everything she wanted to say into a 500 or 350 word limit
Paula’s letters gave people information they could use to open doors in their own lives.
Paula’s success keys opened doors that repeatedly gave other people reasons to make her wishes come true. People who appreciated the opinions, feelings, and information in the letters repeatedly gave Paula the recognition and approval her High I Influence behavior style needed. That repeated recognition and approval made Paula’s wish for an end to her eating disorder come true.
The recognition and approval taught Paula that her letters satisfied other people’s desires to have their opinions and feelings publicly expressed. This gave those satisfied people even more reasons to express recognition and approval for Paula and and her letters.
Serendipitous Success For You: Weight Loss From Water Retention
You are in the right place at the right time to just by chance benefit from Paula Kramer’s straightforward success in ending decades of water retention.
Despite the end of her compulsive overeating, Paula gained more than 40 pounds. She’d struggled with water retention problems for years and had difficulty figuring out the solution. Through her own experience, she realized that taking magnesium supplements twice a day helped her lose some of the weight. After reading two articles in women’s magazines, she realized she also needed taurine and potassium.
Dark chicken meat (as in thighs) is an excellent source of taurine. Paula eats chicken thighs most days of the week. She gets potassium through high potassium, low sodium juices and smoothies. After adding these three nutrients to her daily meals and snacks, Paula has gradually lost more than 30 pounds. She has done so while still eating chocolate, butter, and ice cream in healthy amounts.
Paula’s advice for people with water retention weight:
Add taurine, magnesium, and potassium
to your meals and snacks.
An added benefit is that magnesium and potassium have improved Paula’s ability to sleep. Read more in this PDF download:
Updated June 21, 2018
Open Door Success Example #2
Ending decades of pain
A childhood injury to her spine left Paula disabled as an adult. A boy had pulled her chair out from under her in school when she was twelve years old. The pain in her spine started the instant she hit the floor. Though the pain in her spine was not continuous, it recurred more frequently and more intensely with each passing year. From her late twenties on, sitting and standing normally left Paula in more and more pain. In her mid thirties, an orthopedic surgeon told Paula her disability was permanent. Despite that diagnosis, Paula wished she could find a way to end the pain in her spine.
In the mid 1990s, Paula did a number of talks for women’s business groups. Because Paula had to half sit on a stool to do her talks with as little pain as possible, Paula told audiences about the injury to her spine. Paula asked her audiences to tell any children in their lives to never pull chairs out from under anyone.
A nurse in one of her audiences came up to Paula afterward. She gave Paula a diagnosis that was different from every other diagnosis Paula had received. The nurse’s diagnosis made more sense to Paula than all of the other diagnoses. Two and a half months later, Paula tried the treatment the nurse recommended. The pain in Paula’s spine ended forever. The solution to her pain was actually simple, but Paula’s injury had been misdiagnosed for 33 years. Since Paula did not know that the orthopedic surgeon had misdiagnosed her injury, she was not seeking any other diagnosis or treatment. Paula’s attempt to help other people had created an opportunity for the nurse in her audience to make Paula’s wish come true.
Paula satisfied her Helping and Knowledge guiding value passions by giving people information that could prevent pain and injury.
Doing what she could to save other people from pain and disability
Receiving the correct diagnosis for her own injury after thirty-three years of misdiagnoses
Having her wish for an end to the pain in her spine come true
Freedom from pain in her spine for the rest of her life
The ability to sit and stand normally
The ability to participate in activities that once caused too much pain
Paula’s desire to help others opened a door that gave the nurse in her audience an opportunity to help Paula.
The nurse provided information that Paula used to open the door to a life of no pain in her spine.
Paula’s success key opened a door that gave the nurse in her audience an opportunity to make Paula’s wish come true. The information the nurse gave Paula has never come into Paula’s life in any other way.
The Treatment That Ended The Pain In Paula’s Spine
When the boy in school pulled the chair out from under Paula, she landed hard on her tailbone. Thirty-three years later, the nurse told Paula that her spinal cord had tensed up because of the hard landing on the floor. When Paula did anything that hurt over the years, the tension in her spinal cord increased. As the tension increased, Paula’s pelvis shifted out of place. With her pelvis out of place, Paula’s hips shifted out of place.
The nurse told Paula that her chiropractor husband knew an unusual technique known as the Neural Organizational Technique (NOT). Paula made an appointment with that chiropractor who used NOT to release the tension in Paula’s spine. Paula had been to five or six other chiropractors who had never talked about her spinal cord and never released the tension in her spinal cord with their manipulations. Paula felt some relief from normal chiropractic manipulations, but the pain continued. One chiropractor did figure out that Paula felt pain when she put weight on her spine. Sitting normally put weight on Paula’s spine. Standing normally put weight on Paula’s spine. Carrying anything put weight on Paula’s spine.
Paula has not felt any pain in her spine since June 28, 1996 when she received her first NOT treatment. Most spinal problems require more than one NOT treatment. The chiropractor who treated Paula was surprised at the immediate success and felt that her spine must have been “ready” to be healed.
Do an Internet search for more information about NOT and to find NOT practitioners. The chiropractor who treated Paula is now deceased.
© Paula M. Kramer, 2010
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Last updated July 31, 2018